Clueless Sex

Have Deliciously Dirty Sex

2008-12-15T07:04:00.000-08:00

Has your sex life become a boring routine? Stuck in a routine of familiar sounds and positions? When moving sex from the bedroom to the living room fails to pack the punch you're looking for, it's time to face your true desires. Dirty sex is a beautiful thing.

SO WHY AREN'T YOU DIRTY YET? Think about it. You wouldn't be reading this if the idea of kinky sex didn't turn you on. There's something (or many things) you have always secretly wanted to, but something has held you back from experimenting. What is it? For most of us, the answer is 'fear'. We are too scared to break codes of conduct. We are afraid of rejection from our partner. We fear religious and social consequences if our longings escape the safety of our thoughts. Many of us fear ourselves and what we might find lurking in the shadows of our unclean mind. In our efforts to remain socially, morally and psychologically safe, we deny ourselves the divine gift of sexual gratification. To live with this massive sacrifice, we lie to ourselves. We subscribe to myths that tell us married sex just gets boring and that most women don't like sex. Men and women even convince themselves they are sexually 'broken'. Most are, but we can be fixed. Sexual indifference is not a physical impairment. It's a social one. It infects us when we fail to examine the nature and origins of our inhibitions. As children, we accept the code of conduct and morality that surrounds us. As adolescents, the we learn the rules of acceptable adult behavior. As young adults, we begin the process of examining the information we have collected. While we are comfortable questioning most of the values we have been taught, many of us never challenge the nature of our sexual ethics. To have great, dirty sex, we must ask ourselves why we AREN'T having great, dirty sex. What idea or fear is holding us back? Where did that idea or fear come from? Is it valid? If you find, as many of us do, that your attitude towards sex is not your own, it's time to rethink things. Think about your true sexual longings. What would happen if you experimented with fulfilling those desires. Would anyone be harmed? Do the acts violate your moral code, or the moral code you have been given by others? What would the actual impact on your life be? Depending on the nature of your lust, the results could be disastrous. Or, you could open the door to a world of sexual satisfaction that would brighten your outlook on life in general.

PREPARE If you have decided you want to try dirty sex, take some time to prepare. You will want to minimize the risks involved to ensure a pleasant experience. Is your current partner emotionally and physically 'safe' to experiment with? If the answer is no, you should find a 'safe' partner before play with your passions. Look for someone with an open mind and closed lips. you will want a partner who is interested in playing dirty. You will want a partner who is sensitive, will proceed slowly, and listen to your feedback. You will want someone who can stop when you say STOP! As with all sex, you will want a partner who will not put you at risk for disease AND you will want to practice safe sex. Will you need tools? For instance, if you have always secretly wanted to try anal sex, you will need some supplies before you start. Lubricant, adult toys, and a safeword are a good place to start.

BE FREE When you are finally ready for dirty sex, get dirty. Don't worry about the social, moral, personal implications of dirty sex WHILE having dirty sex. These are issues you should have resolved in Step 1. If they have been resolved, free yourself to focus on the pleasure of dirty sex. Enjoy the physical sensations, the adventure, the fresh approach. If you have not settled these ethical, moral, emotional concerns, you should revisit step 1 before engaging in dirty sex.

Tips & Warnings

Don't assume your partner will frown on the idea of dirty sex. Your current partner may have been afraid to approach the subject with you.
ALWAYS make peace with yourself before engaging in dirty sex. Uncertainty can easily become regret, valid or not.
ALWAYS, always, always practice safe sex.
NEVER violate the law or other people in your pursuit of sexual gratification.

By ehow.com

Groom to Get Down (for Men)

2008-12-15T07:01:00.000-08:00

Guys, as much as we love getting all prettied up for you, we love it even more when you make an effort to be sexy for us. So if you're craving hot action tonight, try a few of these handy-dandy grooming tips (and don't worry, dudes, I'm not gonna bring up chest-waxing or anything surgical).

1. Get clean. Seriously—take a long, hot shower, clip your Frito toenails, shave, and scrub your ass and ballsack with soap. Women are very sensitive to odors, and while you may pass the sniff test with your buddies, us ladies might be put off by some of your "earthier" aromas. On the same note, don't over-do cologne or aftershave—strong perfumes make our eyes water. Mostly we just want to smell you—good, clean, fresh-from-the-shower you.

2. Trim your pubes. Note that I didn't say wax—trimming is sufficient (unless you're a porn star). But the last thing we want when we're going South of the border is a mouth full of hair. And don't neglect the long straggly hairs under your sack unless you want us to stay as far away from your boys as we possibly can, and that would be a shame because most guys like a little nut-lovin' to break up the b.j. routine. (And remember, keep those balls kissin'-fresh—we're not licking anything that smells like Ranch dressing.)

3. Don a brand-new pair of boxer-briefs. Guys, I don't know what it is about them, and maybe it all started with Marky Mark, but there's nothing sexier than the way boxer-briefs cling to your—um, body. The truth is, we're just as turned on by nice underwear as you are. But don't wear a man-thong unless your woman has a fetish for Borat.

4. Remember how you trimmed your toenails? Well, clip your fingernails while you're at it, and file any rough edges. A scratchy finger-bang is no girl's idea of a good time.

5. Do some crunches. We like abs. We really, really like abs. Now light some candles (we're suckers for the vanilla-scented kind), put on some tunes, and look deeply into our eyes. Tell us we're beautiful. Tell us how much you want to be inside us. And watch us rip those boxer-briefs right off your body.

Now light some candles (we're suckers for the vanilla-scented kind), put on some tunes, and look deeply into our eyes. Tell us we're beautiful. Tell us how much you want to be inside us. And watch us rip those boxer-briefs right off your body.

By ehow.com

Find the G Spot without Frustration

2008-12-15T07:00:00.000-08:00

“Where is the G spot exactly?” You often hear this question asked and because not everyone is successful in explaining how to locate it and use it to bring about a G spot orgasm, the G spot is almost reaching ‘mythical’ proportions. But make no mistake about it, it does exist.

Release yourself from any ‘magical expectations’. Think of finding where your G spot is as a sexual exploration. If you reach an orgasm, so be it but don’t be frustrated if you don’t. Beside, focusing on the ‘goal’ will only make reaching it harder (as opposed to enjoying the journey itself).

Play with yourself first. Locating where the G spot is difficult if you’re not turned on because part of this sexual exploration takes place first in the mind. Furthermore, when you’re turned on, the supple area that marks where the G spot is starts to grow bigger and sturdier because of the rush of blood to it, making its location easier. So look at some x-rated movie or magazines and do your best to get yourself wet.

Lie back on soft pillows. Reach down between your legs and slowly insert a finger inside you (make sure you cut your nails before you do this!). If you still feel dry, use a lubricant. Just when you’re in around about your second knuckle, bend your finger like a hook. Feel around a bit with your fingertip. You should locate a slighlt engorged, ridged area.

Once you locate where the G spot is, treat it like your ****oris as it needs constant stimulation. You can tap at it repeatedly or draw small circles around it. You can also apply pressure and ‘flick it’ repeatedly.

If you feel that using your own hand is awkward, try using a sex toy. There are plenty of vibrators out thee specifically made to locate where the G spot is. Again, arouse yourself first and put some lube on the vibrator too before you insert it with the tip facing the upper wall of your vagina. Once your G spot is located, experiment with the different pressures that the sex toy provides.

In general, most women claim to respond well to firm pressure applied on their G spots. As such, using your own finger, the finger of your partner, or a toy, make sure you explore the different motions, pressures and movements you can subject your G spot to.

By ehow.com

Explore the Male Erogenous Zones

2008-12-11T07:57:00.000-08:00

Millard says: I remember the first time a woman put her tongue in my ear. She did a little circle and ooooh … what a rush. And that’s pretty much how all the erogenous zones make you feel. That’s what you’re looking for. The spot that gives your partner that rush, that tingling. So whenever you do something that makes your partner suck in a breath, you’ve found it. That’s where you should pay attention.

A doctor put her hand in the small of my back once and it was a very erotic experience. So don’t overlook some of the more obscure spots on a man’s body. There’s more to a guy than just a penis.

Sally says: I’m glad to hear a man say so. Too often, men seem to want a woman to move directly to ground zero. Zipppp! Here it is! To some extent, every man is a Stranger in a Strange Land. Men, it seems, don’t spend a lot of time exploring their bodies on their own. Once they discover the pleasure potential of their penises, usually at a very young age, usually that’s it. The more adventurous may explore the possibilities of anal stimulation, and most men like kissing. But beyond the penis, anus, lips, the male body goes largely unused and unawakened to sensual pleasure. That’s where a partner comes in handy. The entire body of a man, like that of a woman, is intensely sensual. In fact, the skin is the body’s largest sense organ.

So touch him. Everywhere. With fingers and lips and tongue. Run your hands through his hair as he kisses you, wherever his lips may wander. Kiss his neck and behind his ears. (No hickies or biting. A little nibbling goes a long way.) Using both hands, run the tips of your fingers over every inch of his face, discovering its contours and symmetry.

The Eyes and Ears Have It Most men are highly aroused by visual stimulation. (Not exactly a news flash considering all the magazines, websites, videos and %adult dvds% devoted to sexual images.) A sexy strip tease or some nude yoga poses may be just the thing to stimulate this erogenous sense. Surf the Internet together to some sexy sites or shop online for some adult sex toys to get the temperature rising. And ears are not just for nibbling. Whisper naughty nothings or deliver a few heart-felt moans into your man’s ear for some auditory erogenous stimulation.

His Manly Chest and Torso A man’s breasts have as many nerve endings as a woman’s and many men find simulation here very pleasurable. Start by running your hands over his chest, gently kneading the muscles to wake up the area. Circle in on the nipples, then arouse them with gentle finger and tongue action. (This is a good opportunity to show him how you like your nipples treated. Ask him how he likes it.) Moving south, don’t overlook the navel and lower abdomen area. Simulate the navel with gentle swirling motions of finger or tongue, then move lower to the sensitive lower belly. You’ll find a groove here, the “linea alba,” running from each hip down toward the pubic bone. Run your fingers along it to give your man some unique sensations.

Spread ‘Em! You’ve spread your legs for him. Now take control and gentle move his legs apart to reveal his most private parts. Don’t forget to stroke his inner thighs as you move in for a closer look. They are richly endowed with nerves that connect directly to the sexual organs. We don’t recommend a miner’s headlamp for your investigations of this area, but a thorough survey will reveal lots of sensitive toys for your playing pleasure. There’s the penis, of course, centerpiece of male eroticism and never to be ignored. However, you don’t have to target it for a first strike. Look beyond and behind the penis. There you’ll find the testicles held in the bag of skin called the scrotum. The bag may be loose or tight, depending on the individual man, but is always sensitive, so handle it with care. You can cup the testicles gently in your hand, moving them around a bit in their sack, or run a finger or tongue along the groove between them. Some men enjoy having you take one of their testicles into your mouth for a gentle suck.

Behind the testicles is the perineum, better known in popular culture as the “taint” (it ain’t the penis and it ain’t the anus). This bridge of skin separates the penis from the anus and protects the prostate gland which lies just behind it. Many men enjoy firm stimulation of the taint, especially as they approach orgasm. Even the penis itself is not a single, simple column of flesh. Examine the shaft and you’ll see that each side is different and responds to different kinds of touches. The ridge along the underside of the shaft is especially sensitive. The head of the penis, the glans, has different features and enjoys different stimulations. If your man is uncircumcised, you have even more territory to explore. Try to find the spots and actions that make him moan.

The Rest of the Story It’s no secret that the lower back, buttocks and anus are especially sensitive erogenous zones for both males and females. Many men respond to a brisk spanking with an awesome hard-on. Others enjoy a slim dildo or lubricated finger inserted into the anus to massage the prostate. But approaching the area, especially for the first time, can present a problem. Start by massaging the lower back and buttocks, pulling the cheeks gently apart and stroking the inside edges. Here you may find yet another hidden treasure. One of the most potent and overlooked erogenous hot spots on the male body is found just at the base of the spine. Give it a gentle massage, and maybe a few kisses, and see what pops up.

By ehow.com

Live Breast Examination - How to check your breasts

2008-12-11T07:31:00.000-08:00

Enjoy a Gay Pride Festival in Houston

2008-12-10T06:36:00.000-08:00

The fourth-largest city in America, Houston is home to a sizeable gay population and several well-organized gay-pride events. The headliner is Pride Houston, which usually takes place at the end of June.

Choose a festival. Attend Pride Houston if you're looking for a big bash. There are other events on the gay calendar as well, so find one that fits your agenda and schedule. You can find a listing of events online at the Houston Gay Guide (see Resources below).

Make travel arrangements. Houston is serviced by two major airports, Bush Intercontinental and William P. Hobby. All of the legacy airlines fly into Houston, as well as most of the discount carriers.

Book a room. Houston has a number of small luxury hotels, bed and breakfasts and other accommodations that cater to gay clientele. Among these is the Lovett Inn, located in the heart of Montrose, the city's gay district. For an online listing, check out LambdaResorts (see Resources below). Book early, as these spots tend to fill up quickly for Houston Pride and other festivals.

Pack for the trip. Houston tends to be hot and humid much of the year, so dress accordingly, though you'll likely spend a good deal of time in climate-controlled environments as well. Bring a camera, a costume for the parade and the right clothes for going out on the town.

Get with the program. Houston Pride posts a schedule of events on its Web site (see Resources below), and many of the other festivals do likewise. Some events require tickets, so inquire beforehand.

Explore the city's gay side. The nightlife will be buzzing during Houston Pride and other events. The Montrose district is home to at least 15 gay-friendly and mixed bars. Information on a wide variety of bars can be found at the Houston Gay Guide, which also provides a nice description of the typical clientele.

Tips & Warnings

Bring a camera.
Practice safe sex. Always.
Keep your wits about you. Some parts of Houston are less tolerant than others, so keep an eye out for your safety.

By ehow.com

the architecture of men and women - Part 5

2008-12-10T06:27:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel show about the human body anatomy part five

the architecture of men and women - Part 4

2008-12-08T04:40:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel show about the human body anatomy part four

Be a Better Sex Partner – Learn to Improve Sex

2008-12-08T04:38:00.000-08:00

Everybody dreams about having and giving the best sex sessions ever. However, almost everybody does only that – dreaming. The question is: how does one stop dreaming about it and start doing it? Because, as you will see, it is as easy as it comes when you have to have sex. First off all, we have to admit one thing and one thing only – we are not as good in bed as we wanted to be. Otherwise, why would you read a guide about how to improve sex?

Second off all, we must think like pornstars – and you know why? Because it is easy and fun to have wild and dirty sex. It is not some sort of boring job, where you have to wake up in the morning, take the bus and spend your entire day writing reports and doing statistics about other people having sex. It is you the one that feels the pleasure of doing the deed. And, third of all, keep in mind the following things that pornstars do:

Act as if you enjoy having sex, because you do like it. What does that mean? Just smile, like you want to be there, with the one that you are doing it. Don’t be ashamed by the size of your ****, by the fact that you are a little to hairy, or just because you drink too much beer. If you want to know how to improve sex, you have to be confident about the way you look, and you have to show your partner that. When smiling and letting him or her know that you are aroused, you would have made your first step on the path of learning how to have sex like a pornstar.

Have you heard pornstars having sex? Scream like them; it is the second thing you must do. I mean, smiling is a good way of showing your confidence in your abilities. But screaming (groaning, whimpering, screaming all those filthy words that you know) is the ultimate indication of you god-like abilities. When screaming, you become less inhibited – and this helps not only you, but your partner too. If you want to know how to improve sex, just open your mouth. It is easy enough to scream – because now you learn how to have sex like a pornstar.

Change the scenery – I mean, how many pornstars have sex in the bedroom, in bed? The sex is better in the place where you get aroused. Do not wait to get home, get in the bedroom, make the bed and then have sex. Just do it wherever you have to do it. As I have said, in order to know how to improve sex you have to be confident in yourself. Even if you have to do it in the changing room of a supermarket. However, do not go to the supermarket especially to have sex. Try your garden, try the kitchen table, try the elevator – you will know how to have sex like a pornstar in no time.

Role-playing – the last important thing to do, if you want to know how to improve sex. Play a little game – cops and robbers: you can do wanders with a pair of handcuffs; the doctor and the nurse – where can you put that big thermometer? Playing is very fun, when you know how to have sex like a pornstar. However, keep in mind the fact that not the details of the scenario count, but the way you act. And if you smile, scream and do it in the cellar – while your partner is gagging on that big thermometer, you are already a master of the art of how to have sex like a pornstar.

By ehow.com

A Beginner’s Guide to Spankin’ It (Barehanded)

2008-12-05T15:34:00.000-08:00

You’ve been very naughty, and now you’re going to get the spanking you deserve. If these words bring a glow to your cheeks, consider incorporating spanking play into your bedroom repertoire. With a little knowledge (and a willing partner in crime), you can turn those glowing cheeks red-hot!

Start out slow and barehanded, patting the fleshiest part of your partner’s bottom as your honey lays tummy-down on the bed (or across your lap, if both of you find the idea of over-the-knee spanking a turn-on). Allow your partner to acclimate to the patting sensation, and remain gentle—no surprise whacks in the beginning, no matter how tempting. Your partner is physically vulnerable and needs to be able to trust you. Tensed muscles during a spanking—even a light one—can result in bruising, so remind your sweetie to relax, and don’t strike if your partner is involuntarily tightening up. If this happens, try rubbing the skin instead, generating reassuring warmth and friction.

Step2

Very gradually increase the force behind each love-pat as your partner indicates a desire for more. Don’t spank over the low-back area—kidneys live there, and they don’t like being hit! Also, avoid the spine. Keep your focus on the fullest, fattiest part of each buttock, alternating strokes between sides so as not to “wear out” the skin on one side prematurely. If your partner asks for a firmer stroke, now’s the time to make it sting—but remember, this is foreplay, not domestic abuse, so go slow and make sure the sensation is pleasurable to your partner at every level.

Step3

A good bare-handed spanking circulates blood and sensitizes the skin, resulting in a beautiful pink glow, a delightful tingling sensation, and an endorphin rush that can feel intensely erotic. And remember that turn-about is fair play: After you’re done spanking your partner, it’s only proper to surrender your own bottom and let your honey spank you. Revenge, after all, can be awfully sweet.

Tips & Warnings

Want to read more articles like this? Find them at www.dailysexscoop.com! Check us out every day for new ideas, inspiration and insight about how to enjoy a more adventurous, fulfilling sex life. We invite you to enjoy our content and to share your own thoughts, experiences and advice. Together, we can break through our culture’s “sex is shameful” stigma to celebrate our capacity for passion, fun and sexual expression.

By ehow.com

Use the Secret Twitch Method

2008-12-05T14:59:00.000-08:00

Sex is often a difficult subject to talk about even in the most trusting relationships. Taboo, discomfort or underdeveloped sense of sexuality all play a factor. Fewer still talk about what goes on in the bedroom. So how are you supposed to know what your partner likes or dislikes in a short period of time? The secret twitch method allows you to quickly discover what excites and brings your partner to exploding orgasms.

for her: gently insert one finger into her vagina. Hold it there. for him: place the pad of two fingers (index and middle or middle and ring finger onto his perineum with a medium pressure. Hold it there.

Feel for the twitch while exploring different methods of stimulation (oral sex, vaginal fingering, toys). Notice whenever your partner involuntarily twitches. You will feel a clench (or twitch) of her vagina or his perineum.

Make mental notes of exactly which strokes make your partner twitch. A few common points which respond are a stroke to the clitoris in a certain way, massaging vagina walls, the A-spot, the glans, the underside of the glans.

Make your partner orgasm by repeating or doing combos (for more powerful orgasms) of your partners twitch points continuously.

Tips & Warnings

Take your time exploring different twitch points, this is an exercise your partner will thoroughly enjoy.
After things cool down write down your partners twitch points.
When inserting fingers into the vagina make sure hands are clean, nails are clipped and manicured.
Before inserting fingers into the vagina, make sure she is properly lubricated.
If you use clitoral stimulation techniques to make her orgasm give her some time before you begin again as it will be extremely sensitive after orgasm.
After your man ejaculates stop or be extremely gentle with stimulation as his male organ will be very sensitive to any touch.

By how.com

the architecture of men and women - Part 3

2008-12-05T14:57:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel show about the human body anatomy part three

Pole dancing: A "clean, fun, social activity"

2008-12-03T07:40:00.000-08:00

The U.S. and China compete fiercely in many arenas, but the New York Times reported Friday that we've at least got them beat when it comes to repurposing sexual seduction as fitness. (Pssh, forget the new space race!) We long ago outfitted our family gyms with stripper poles and it has been five years since Carmen Electra released her hit educational DVD series "Aerobic Striptease." But, finally, China is following in America's platform footsteps and enjoying erotic dance as sport. (Hope you enjoy the view from the bottom of the ~~ladder~~ stripper pole!)

The Times interviewed 39-year-old Luo Lan, the first person to successfully introduce pole dancing to mainstream Chinese women. The key -- just as in the U.S. -- was scrubbing it of shame. "People here have never seen a pole dance, and for that reason they don't associate it with stripping or women of ill repute," she told the Times. Make no mistake, though, this isn't the family-friendly pole acrobatics that are seen in Cirque du Soleil; Luo's students wear knee-high boots and spandex shorts, and there is, of course, the requisite quote from a student saying the class made her feel sexy. I don't buy for a minute that a large part of the sexual charge students get from the class doesn't come directly from the taboo of sex work and stripping. However, Luo explains that it's simply "a clean, fun, social activity." How, you might ask, are "clean, fun" ladies who socialize while doing upside-down splits different from "women of ill repute"? They don't take off their clothes and, most important, cash isn't tucked into their cleavage.

That is where I'm reminded why I've always been personally torn over the popularity of these classes (which I've tried myself). They remove the aspect of commerce from stripping while, ironically, commercializing and mass-producing it. As Mary Elizabeth Williams perfectly put it in a Salon essay, the aim of these classes isn't to transform you into a sex object but a Happy Meal. Now, I quite enjoy the occasional meal packed with trans fats -- literally and otherwise -- but I just can't stomach this variation on the familiar virgin-whore dichotomy: It's sexy to play the part of a stripper, but shameful to be one. I would like to think that the global growth of these classes shows that it's becoming more acceptable for women to freely explore and push the limits of their sexuality, but we're still revolving around that same point of sexual shame.

Clearly, we haven't shaken the whole Madonna-whore complex. Only now, who actually needs a whore when a wife can be taught to pretend to be one?

By Tracy Clark-Flory

salon.com

the architecture of men and women - Part 2

2008-12-03T07:27:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel show about the human body anatomy part two

Talk Dirty—Oh … Baby … Yeah

2008-12-03T07:22:00.000-08:00

There you are, skin to skin, hands stroking soft, bare flesh, and your partner whispers in your ear, “Talk dirty to me.” Do you suddenly find that you’d rather be discussing your taxes than what you are about to do to his body parts (or want done to yours)—let alone making it sound sexy? Are you trying to hold back an embarrassing urge to burst into a fit of girlish giggles? Would you rather “show” than “tell?”

If so, you are not alone. For many, sex is a non-verbal affair. According to an Elle/MSNBC.com Sex and Love Survey, only four in 10 respondents said they have asked their lovers for something in bed in the past month. If you and your partner aren’t yet comfortable communicating during sex, you might have a hard time jumping into the world of dirty talk. So the first thing to do is to learn how to verbalize in bed. Start with one sentence. It could be as simple as letting him or her know how much he turns you on. You don’t have to get into the specifics yet. A simple “that feels sooo good” can go a long way. And by the way “dirty talk” doesn’t have to be “dirty.” (Though it certainly can be if you like it that way.) Hot talk is simply sexual communications turned up a notch. It incorporates aural stimulation into the sex, which can be a major turn-on—if it’s within your comfort zone.

A little out-of-bedroom hot talk can help pave the way. Try leaving a sexy note telling your partner what you’d like to do to him when you hit the sheets that night. My husband and I sometimes enjoy some sexy Instant Messaging to get our engines revving. For many, it’s easier to express yourself in writing rather than face to face. But don’t neglect the bedroom. Start verbalizing your desires. Don’t expect your partner to guess what you want. Tell him. If you want oral, ask for it. If you want it harder, softer, faster, slower, speak up. The beauty is that the more you talk, the easier it will flow. Then you can start to get a little saucy.

One of the keys to mastering dirty talk is to find a vocabulary that works for you. Some words probably make you hot while others leave you cold (or giggling). So what sexy words get your juices flowing? Ask you partner to share some of his preferred vocabulary (and what NOT to say). This conversation alone can get you off and running. But if you are still at a loss what to say, try simply describing what’s happening and how you feel about it. “Now I’m going to kiss/lick/suck/stroke your ______” or “Mmmm, I love it when you _____.”

The more you practice, the more comfortable you will become. And new doors will likely open up. Who knows what may happen once you start whispering your little secrets in your partner’s ear? Role playing, or sharing fantasies, is an extension of hot talk that can deepen your intimate connection—and make life a whole lot more interesting between the sheets.

Tips & Warnings

Want to read more articles like this? Find them at www.dailysexscoop.com! Check us out every day for new ideas, inspiration and insight about how to enjoy a more adventurous, fulfilling sex life. We invite you to enjoy our content and to share your own thoughts, experiences and advice. Together, we can break through our culture’s “sex is shameful” stigma to celebrate our capacity for passion, fun and sexual expression.

By ehow.com

The architecture of men and women - Part 1

2008-12-02T09:08:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel show about the human body anatomy part one

In defense of casual sex

2008-12-02T08:56:00.000-08:00

Twenty-something Anna Broadway has known many men -- so many, in fact, that she's given them each an easy nickname, like Singapore Fling, Sugar Daddy, Internet Date and Married Man. She's met them on Craigslist, through online dating sites and at singles bars. Broadway sounds a lot like your average member of the "hookup" generation, save for one detail: None of these men have made it into her bed. That's because, as Broadway writes in her memoir, "Sexless in the City," she's saving herself for marriage.

Broadway's G-rated memoir is just one of a slew of books about chastity released in time to make everyone's list of hot summer reads ... for those planning a vacation in the Arctic Circle. The onslaught started in the spring with "Sex and the Soul: Juggling Sexuality, Spirituality, Romance and Religion on America's College Campuses," which reports that all but marriage-minded evangelical students are sleeping around -- and attending Pimps 'n' Hos parties -- in hopes of meeting that special someone. Next came "The Purity Code," a book for Christian teens detailing "God's plan for sex and your body." The catalog climaxes this week with the Aug. 1 release of "Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex Is Affecting Our Children." (Hint: Cataclysmically.)

These books are just the latest result of the mounting abstinence movement, which, despite its religious roots, has recast its attack on "hookup" culture as secular, even feminist. The term "hooking up" -- meaning anything from kissing to casual sex -- can be traced back to the early '80s, but only within the past few years did the hand-wringing really begin. Former Washington Post reporter Laura Sessions Stepp spent years detailing so-called collegiate mating rituals -- often lamenting a tendency among young women toward boozed-up hookups instead of cross-legged gatekeeping -- which culminated in last year's retro revitalization, "Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love and Lose at Both."

The abstinence movement has been successful in securing federal funding for abstinence-only programs -- to the tune of $800 million over the past eight years -- but the spectacle of father-daughter purity balls, chastity rings and virginity pledges has failed to make abstinence appear even marginally cool to the mainstream. More recently, activists have begun borrowing from the feminist arsenal -- using words like "empowerment" and "respect" -- in their assault on uncommitted sex. These books add to a loudening cautionary chorus: Young women are hooking up and tuning out emotionally. And, increasingly, young women are being told they are either respecting or exploiting themselves; they're either with the "Girls Gone Wild," sex blogger set or with the iron-belted and chaste. A few months back, a New York Times Magazine piece about chastity on Ivy League campuses relied on this false binary: It pitted a prim Harvard abstinence advocate against a campus sex blogger (who recently posted a photo of her face covered in splooge).

Choose a side? No thanks. I'm a 24-year-old member of the hookup generation -- I've had roughly three times as many hookups as relationships -- and, like innumerable 20-somethings before me, I've found that casual sex can be healthy and normal and lead to better adult relationships. I don't exactly advocate picking up guys at frat parties and screwing atop the keg as the path to marital bliss. It's just that hookup culture is not the radical extreme it is so frequently mischaracterized as in the media. There is sloppy stranger sex among people my age, sure, but sometimes hooking up is regular sex with a casual acquaintance; sometimes it's innocent making out or casually dating or cuddling, and, oftentimes, it involves just one person at a time. In a sense it's all very old-fashioned -- there's just a lot more unattached sex involved.

Like most 20-somethings, I've had online pornography and unregulated chat rooms at my fingertips since I hit puberty. But I also grew up during the Girl/Grrrl Power explosion, which taught me to demand respect, and play handball (and, later, hardball) with the boys. And it taught me that I didn't need to cake myself in makeup or teeter along in foot-disfiguring heels -- unless, of course, I wanted to.

From the very start, my love life has embodied that seeming paradox. I lost my virginity at 16 with my first love and best friend; it was all champagne and roses. It was also as-porn-ational sex: I enthusiastically guided us into nearly every position I'd long marveled at online. At one point, midcoital, I actually pinched my chin and asked aloud, "What positions are left?" Afterward, he observed: "That wasn't what I'd imagined, exactly." He had imagined: 1) the missionary position and 2) ceremonial crying.

I didn't do much hooking up in college; I went to a single-sex school. But after I closed the gates to that cosseted women's school -- and all of its unsexy talk about misogyny and the patriarchy -- I opened those other, um, metaphorical gates of mine. OK, screw the modesty: My legs, I opened my legs. That's not to say I had a host of one-night stands -- I've never had a one-night stand, only several-nights stands. But I went through a dressing room phase of trying on different men to see how they fit. (This one makes my control-freak quotient look big but has a slimming effect on my ego.) Like Anna Broadway, I can easily and embarrassingly categorize these men: Lonely Lawyer, Sociopathic Spaniard, Testosterone-Poisoned Pilot and Bellicose Bartender, for starters. Together, they're like the Village People for straight women. During this time, I told my friend Sarah and her boyfriend about the latest person I was seeing. "Which one?" he asked, smirking. I laughed, but I wondered: Shit, am I that girl?

For a while, I was. First, there was the cartoonist. The first night we hooked up, he took me back to his house and played guitar, sang every song he'd ever written, and juggled his collection of vitamin pill bottles.

Then there was the lawyer. We would have passionate, hours-long debates, as though we were opposing counsels in court; the first of such debates ended with him throwing up his hands and announcing, "Congratulations, you've worn out a professional litigator." He owned his own three-story house with a panorama of the Bay Area, drove an SUV -- with a shiny hood ornament that made me cringe -- and wanted to sweep me off my feet, rescue me from my one-room apartment, as well as the dishes piled up in (and under) my sink and my bipolar upstairs neighbor whose monologues are the constant soundtrack to my home life. I told him "no thanks" and moved along.

Then there was the pilot, whom I would see whenever his flight schedule brought him in town. I'd stay the night at his utilitarian airport hotel, order room service, watch planes take off right outside our window, and talk about sexy things like black boxes, plane crashes and thunderstorms. He was cartoonishly masculine and he made me feel stereotypically feminine, which I am not; it made me constantly want to challenge him to an arm-wrestling match. It was amorous antagonism.

As far as I can tell, these choices don't form a pattern, other than a refusal to really choose. I was like a college freshman filling out the Career Center's job placement questionnaire, making an enthusiastic check mark next to every box; except, in my case, I was checking off men. Most of them were great; others led me on and made me cry. In a few cases, I felt used, but other times I felt like a user. There were some I wanted to date but who wanted to keep things casual, and vice versa.

There's nothing unusual about my experience. The New York Times recently ran a Modern Love essay by Marguerite Fields, a college junior, about her search for a boy willing to commit. Like me, and like Broadway, she has worked her way through a number of men and says, "I think what I have been seeking in some form from all of these men is permanence." Near the end of her essay, she ends a third date by asking the guy when she'll see him next. "That's a loaded question," he says, offering a meandering explanation: "He said he had just gotten out of a long relationship, and now he was single and didn't really know how this whole dating thing works, but he was seeing a lot of other people, and he liked me."

I've heard that speech before; I've given that speech before. It shouldn't be mistaken as a symptom of a generation unable to commit; it's simply what you tell someone when you realize that you don't like him or her all that much. For all the anxiety about "hookup culture" the truth is that for many people older than 20, "hookup culture" will sound remarkably like, well, "college." Indeed, students shifted from dating to what was essentially hooking up during a wild time -- perhaps you've heard of it -- called the '70s.

But, as the median age of marriage continues to climb, young women are spending a lot more time romantically vetting -- and being vetted. It isn't just that hooking up is becoming a common preamble to dating, either -- living in sin is increasingly a prelude to marriage. Hopefully, by taking several test-drives before buying, we'll be happier with our final investment.

Of course, there are also very real hazards to hookup culture: namely, rising rates of unplanned pregnancies among young women and sky-high STD rates. It's safe to say many don't take the latter very seriously: Moe Tkacik, a blogger for Gawker Media's feminist blog, Jezebel, recently stirred the pot by writing that condomless sex "feels awesome" because she has "only really engaged in bareback sex with the types of dudes ... whose diseases I don't particularly fear, because the worst thing I can think of about most of them is the ensuing lifetime of awkward conversations." (And, occasionally, sexual empowerment is overplayed to the point of farce, in the case of a recent incident in which Moe and fellow blogger Tracie Egan shrugged off the seriousness of rape.)

But much of the finger-wagging over hooking up neglects those very reasonable concerns. For example, abstinence advocates are fond of the saying: "There is no condom for the heart." But heartbreak isn't always sexually transmitted. In the New York Times Magazine piece on chastity, prominent Harvard activist Janie Fredell lamented the hurt she'd seen women go through in their pursuit of relationships via hooking up -- as though abstaining from sex would have saved them a broken heart. If only.

I learned something from all of the men I dated. Sexually, I learned plenty about what turns me on. More important, by spending time in uncommitted relationships, what I wanted in a committed relationship became clearer -- and it wasn't amorous antagonism but a partnership that didn't trigger self-protectiveness.

I also discovered that a lot of young men are scared shitless -- of women, themselves and their future; that, contrary to our cultural imaginings, they are just as desperate to figure things out as young women. I found that a lot of the pains in the relationships of us 20-somethings can be blamed on cultural prescriptions for masculinity. Yes, there is the stud-slut double standard -- but there's also an expectation that men, unlike women, will not seek safe harbor in a relationship. No, they are supposed to bravely sail their ships beyond the singing sirens and silted waters of their quarter life until they miraculously hit land in the Real Adult World.

As Kathy Dobie wrote in reviewing Stepp's "Unhooked": "We learn less about intimacy in our youthful sex lives than we do about humanity ... Perhaps, this generation, by making sex less precious, less a commodity, will succeed in putting simple humanity back into sex." Indeed, and perhaps young women are putting feminist ideals of equality into sex by refusing shame and claiming the traditionally male side of the stud/slut double standard. Also, the idea that a woman has to test a man by withholding sex -- as many abstinence advocates actually argue -- relies on a paradigm of inequality in which women are forced to rely on such desperate power plays. It isn't that feminism has taught women to have sex like men, as the argument commonly goes, but that withholding sex isn't women's sole superpower; coitus isn't women's kryptonite.

With that in mind, I put my academic and career achievements ahead of romantic relationships, and allowed myself plenty of uncommitted entertainment along the way.

Like Broadway, I happily stayed single until I found someone who seemed truly worth the commitment; unlike Broadway, I wasn't abstinent. These can be different paths ultimately converging on the same plateau of partnership. By the same token, though, you can chastely date more men than you can count -- or sleep with every man who offers you a drink -- and not learn a damn thing about how to find a healthy relationship. We feminists do, indeed, love words like "empowerment" and "respect," but there's one we like even more: choice. The problem is that, too often, the abstinence movement prescribes a particular path, rather than encouraging young women to blaze their own trail.

A year ago, I decided to take a brief hookup hiatus and then, unexpectedly, met a man who is emotionally available and comfortably, not defensively, masculine -- I've never felt the need to challenge him to an arm-wrestling match. We're in a relationship now and he has become my best friend. He openly calls himself a feminist and, smilingly, describes our relationship as "respect run amok."

Oh, and we had sex the first night we met.

By Tracy Clark-Flory

salon.com

Practice Safer Sex

2008-12-02T08:27:00.000-08:00

Practicing safer sex is not only prudent for reducing the risks of getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), HIV or unwanted pregnancy, it is also very important in maintaining optimum health, quality lifestyle, and even save your life!!! The only 100% effective way to prevent getting infected is abstinence from engaging in sexual intercourse or activities with another sexual partner. This article will give you ways to practice safer sex and to communicate and prevent the risks of being infected or infecting others.

If you decide to become sexually active and want to engage in sex it is better to educate and equip yourself and your sexual partner about the ways to practice safer sex methods. REMEMBER COMMUNICATION BETWEEN PARTNERS IS AN IMPORTANT FACTOR especially on potentially life changing consequences of contracting infectious diseases from unsafe sexual practices. Our society places so much emphasis and pressures on sex and the pursuit of sex and being the most basic "urge" to satisfy our sexual libido most people find it very difficult to practice abstinence or to stay in monogamous relationships nowadays. Since this is a fact that holds true in our "modern" civilization , then it is more important now to become knowledgeable and to empower ourselves with the tools to protect not just ourselves from acquiring infectious diseases but also to prevent infecting others. Nowadays, there is an abundance of resources where one can obtain information about these subjects. Sites made by organizations such as Planned Parenthood, ASHA and The CDC are filled with safe sex information as well multiple online sites.

What is SAFER SEX?.... well it the practice of engaging in sexual contact with your partner that includes using ways and methods, ie, condoms, to reduce the risks of contracting or infecting others with infectious diseases, reduce the risks of unwanted pregnancies, is emotionally safe, respectful and consented to by both consenting partners, and there is no pressure on any one partner to engage in sex if uncomfortable. Safer activities can include kissing, touching, cuddling and using condoms for sexual intercourse. REMEMBER that you are still not 100% protected even if you not engage in direct sexual intercourse because even kissing, petting, or any contact with mucus membranes that line parts of the body with an infectious person will place you at risk for becoming infected or infecting others. For example, genital warts, genital herpes and other STDs can also be passed on during protected sex , ie, using a latex condom, because the condom does not always cover the affected area. Also, Scabies or pubic lice can be passed on just by very close contact.

When there is no exchange of bodily fluids from one partner to the other then that can be considered safer sex interactions. Some of these activities can be simple cuddling, closed mouth kissing, hugging, masturbation or sexual fantasies. utilizing sex toys or internet software are also ways to satisfy one's sexual desires. Safer sex is also includes consensual sex and saying NO to "unsafe" sex is your right and your power. NEVER ENGAGE IN SEX IF YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT IT<>

Sexual activities that are definitely unsafe are engaging in unprotected sex and not using a condom, having anal or vaginal oral sex without a dental dam(dams are latex sheet used for mouth/vagina oral sex) or plastic film covering the exposed area of the genitalia or anal region. Also, having contact with any open lesions or sores and coming into direct contact with bodily fluids, ie, saliva, semen, urine, sweat, and blood in the vagina or open sores or cuts.

Our society places so much emphasis and pressures on sex and sexual performance, and we are constantly striving to attain physical "perfection" in order to attract a sexual partner, that we as a society spend millions of dollars each year on pills, cosmetic surgeries, clothes, diets, etc. We have forgotten how to REALLY communicate with each other, to be intimate, close, caring and compassionate people. We have forgotten how to be loving to ourselves and, therefore, unable to truly love another human being. Sex is trivial, superficial, emotionally "baron", cold and meaningless without closeness, caring, compassion and communication. That is why it is so important to ask yourself and your sexual partner questions before engaging in sexual activities, especially for young adults and for those individuals who are contemplating about becoming sexually active for the first time. Here some questions to ask yourself .. Do you feel ready in yourself to engage in sex? why you want to have sex ?... How does your partner feel? What are your partner's reasons for having sex? Can you talk openly to your partner about your feelings about sex? and vice versa?...do you want to know more about your sexual partner's sexual history ?... sometimes people LIE about their sexual history and will not let you know the truth that they have an STD or HIV/AIDS... the only way to be absolutely sure is to go and see a medical doctor and have the appropriate testing done.

If both partners decide they want to engage in sex then be prepared for safer sex...do you have condoms ready ?... are you prepared ?... respect each other? ...REMEMBER you have the power to make your own choices when it comes to your body and to sex. ..NEVER GIVE IT AWAY AND BE PRESSURED INTO HAVING UNSAFE SEX!!!!!

Tips & Warnings

If the condom breaks during intercourse and you have n=been exposed to semen then become educated about the Emergency contraceptive pills (the 'morning after pill') to reduce the risk of unwanted pregnancy. Speak with your medical doctor about this to obtain more information.
Have an STD or HIV testing before having sex with anyone else to avoid passing it on. If you feel like you have been exposed to an infected person then go and seek medical attention and get a check up as soon as possible.
Take the Sex-Fu challenge : a fun game brought to you by the sexualityandu.ca website from Canada. Learn all about reproductive systems, safer sex and STDs. http://www.sexualityandu.ca/multimedia/games/sexfu/index_e.asp
Anyone can get HIV/AIDS.
DO NOT ENGAGE IN SEXUAL ACTIVITY IF YOU HAVE AN STD AND Infections see a medical doctor and get treatment and wait till the doctor tell you are clear to become sexually active again.
Using a condom is NOT 100% protection against STDs and HIV/AIDS infections
This article is written to educate and inform the reader and is not a substitute or replacement for seeking professional medical care and attention from your own medical doctor or healthcare professional.

By ehow.com

Ask a call girl

2008-12-01T06:39:00.000-08:00

I assumed the Showtime series "Secret Diary of a Call Girl" was yet another hackneyed, over-the-top hooker story intended to shock the masses. But by the second episode, I was addicted. The imported British comedy, which ended its first season on Monday night, has proved well crafted and witty, keeping the harsh and gritty edges of London rather than presenting it in Vaseline-smeared Playboy soft focus.

As a high-class call girl named Belle, the excellent Billie Piper is young and handsome but also a bit worn-out looking, as we might imagine her to be. Though the show is sexy -- with plenty of unblinking bedroom romps -- it is also funny and perhaps even, dare we say it, informative, with juicy tidbits about a taboo and complicated life. Who doesn't wonder what the life of a call girl is like?

And yet, how accurate is it, really? Some of Belle's clients are unbelievably handsome. At one point, she enlists her (darn hot) ex-lover/best friend, played by Iddo Goldberg, into a client-requested foursome. By the time Belle had one of her regular clients (also her accountant) wearing a leather thong and licking her toilet after a request for some S&M action, I had to wonder -- how much dramatic license was being taken? There was only one way to find out: I needed to talk to some experienced call girls.

Call girl No. 1: Cindy

Cindy is one of my closest friends, but in her past life -- before we met and before she became a wife and mother -- she was an upscale call girl in Los Angeles. A beautiful blonde, she fell into the life after a modeling career failed to take off. She was approached by an agent/pimp, decided to take a jump and found herself in subsidized luxury dating actors and record producers and race car drivers. "I'm no going to lie, I got off on the rush my lifestyle gave me," she says. "I'm sure it was a control thing, getting these major tycoons to take care of me so well."

What do you think of "Secret Diary of a Call Girl?"

At first I didn't like it. I found Belle really annoying -- too hard, too cocky, especially with the clients. When you are that level of call girl, making $500-$1,000 an hour, your job is to be super-sweet, super-feminine, the perfect dream girl, not an edgy cool chick. But she's growing on me.

What about Belle can you relate to?

Her loneliness. It is very stressful to lead two lives, to have to lie all the time -- how is it that you can afford those great shoes, that $2,000 bag, the apartment? Of course you put up with it because you love the money and the control, like Belle says, but you do get lonely.

What seemed ridiculously unrealistic?

Lots of things. How much time she spends with her clients. She lingers and hangs out. In real life you are looking at that clock all the time, and when time is up, it's over. Also the meeting with the agent, her pimp, in public with the other girls -- that would never happen. Agents are much more hardcore than the lady on the show. She is way too nice. And Belle working out of her apartment like that -- it's not safe. Usually in real life you have a separate apartment for the clients. You don't want clients knowing where you live. They can get obsessive and start showing up, so for security's sake you keep your workplace and your home separate.

Anything else seem realistic?

Her attachment to Ashok, her first client, her devastation when he chooses another girl. Sometimes you get attached to clients like that.

What were your customers like?

Well, this is going to sound weird, but they were all guys who I would have dated if I had met them under different circumstances. Even when I was young I never went for the bad boy, the starving artist, the boy toy. I only liked older, smart, successful men.

Did you have code words like "no problemo" to let your agent or pimp or someone know there was a problem?

Yeah, you always have someone to check in with, to make sure you are OK and the client is not creepy.

In one episode, Belle attends a fancy sex party with a creepy Russian client. Would you have bailed on him like Belle did?

Sometimes you get icky guys like that, but mostly I got really nice guys. And no, I would never flake on a client like that. You have to be professional, not ruin your reputation, your agent's reputation, piss everyone off -- unless of course you feel like you are in jeopardy.

What do you like best in the show?

I guess as an ex-call girl, it's fun watching the show and seeing what is real and what's completely off. I think it glamorizes the business a bit. Being a high-class call girl is a cool life if you know what you're doing, but a very hard life too, which I don't think they depict well on the show -- just how stressful it really is.

Call girl No. 2: Stephanie

I found Stephanie by Googling "Escorts NYC." It was my short experience of what it must be like to be a client. So many women! And I had to pick one: There were piles of blondes, busty brunettes, exotic Asians; I started to panic. I sorted by price -- $750 an hour, $1,000 an hour -- and there was Stephanie. I don't know what it was, but I got a rush. I had to have her. She looked beautiful and intelligent, nothing cheesy about her photo. After sending a nervous, sweaty-palmed e-mail, I checked my in box like a schoolboy after asking the cheerleader to the prom. Then she wrote back! She offered a long, elegant explanation for her absence -- she had been out of the country with a client (perfect!). She was happy to discuss "Secret Diary of a Call Girl." But first she needed some references; it was all very professional.

What do you think of the show?

I think it's fantastic -- in many ways realistic. They must have inside info from a high-class call girl.

What do you think of Belle?

Lovely but a bit hardened. I found her to be very cold in many ways to her clients. It's very much about the sex with her. High-class clients are more interested in the overall experience. In fact, the sexual aspect is the least important. I would not class Belle as a "high-class" escort -- more middle of the range.

At one point, she's asked to perform an all-nighter. A guy pays to have a girlfriend for the night, right? Was that realistic?

Leaving during the booking to pick up another client downstairs and then going back -- extremely unlikely. Also leaving for cigarettes. There is room service for that, and 90 percent of clients do not want you to smoke anyway.

Do you tip the concierge?

That happens. Also limo drivers and cab drivers that recommend [my] services to potential clients. It happens more often than you'd think.

Are your clients as attractive as some of Belle's?

Yes. A great deal of my clients are attractive and highly intelligent, impeccably groomed, well traveled. You would never guess they use the service, but they do. They see professional ladies not because they can't get a date but because of variety and convenience, not to mention discretion. It's on their terms, and they like you to leave when they want you to leave. Basically you get paid to leave.

Do you relate to Belle?

On some level I relate to her, but we are very different people. I am very driven and hardworking with long-term plans that I have put into action already. I could not relate to her passing up the opportunity she got from the client who set her up in her own penthouse. But she felt comfortable in the "middle range" of escorting and couldn't understand the opportunity that presented itself to her. She could have made a fortune in that environment, and it would have led to countless other opportunities. You don't pass that up -- better clients, 10 times more money. Belle lives very much for today. That is very common with working ladies.

By By Ondine Galsworth

salon.com

Give Women an Orgasm through G Spot Stimulation

2008-12-01T06:36:00.000-08:00

Give women an orgasm they don’t experience everyday by stimulating their G spots. The key is to know the best position for her and the best movements you can apply once you reach a woman’s G spot.

To give women orgasms though their G spots, it’s first important to put her at ease. Many women are actually reluctant to have you fiddling with their G spots because of many reasons. One, she’s not really sure where her G spot is exactly herself. Two, she’s afraid that she’ll pee on you during g spot stimulation. And three, she may think that YOU don’t want to have to do anything with her G spot! On point one, tell that if you’re willing to explore her G spot and bring her to a wild orgasm, she should be open to it too. On point two, the best way to address this is to ask her to relieve herself in the bathroom first or not drink for about an hour or two before you guys engage in sex. On the third point, just re-assure that you are indeed interested in bring her to a different kind of climax.

Engage in a lot of foreplay and oral sex. These activities will put you both in the right mood and even physically help you locate her G spot. As she’s sexually stimulated, blood rushes to her G spot and engorges it a bit, making it easier for you to find her spot.

Before location, focus on position. Ask her to sit on an armchair and have her legs propped on either side of the armrests. She may feel a bit too exposed that’s why foreplay and oral sex are important. You don’t need to literally ask her to do this position. You can guide her to an armchair and perform oral sex on her, putting her in perfect position at the same time.

Another position you guys can try is simply having her lie back on a soft pillow and hoisting her hips up with pillows. This enables you to more comfortably insert your finger into her, palm up. This also opens her up for ****oral stimulation later. She may also try to squat while you reach down and insert a finger insider her.

Whatever the position, bring your woman to orgasm via G spot simulation by applying firm pressure on her G spot. You can crook your index finger, or middle finger, or both, as if you’re calling someone when you’re inside her. Feel for a slightly engorged and rough spot on her vaginal wall. Once you find her G spot, tap at it, make circular eight motions and flick it like a switch and see which one brings your woman to an orgasm the hardest and soonest.

By ehow.com

The Anatomy of Sex part 7

2008-12-01T06:13:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel special "the anatomy of sex" part seven

- About orgasm

Lad mags vs. family values

2008-11-30T06:26:00.000-08:00

In a speech Monday, British M.P. Michael Gove spoke out against "narrow conception(s) of beauty and a shallow approach towards women." Bravo! It's great to see a politician publicly speak out against sexist attitudes and rigid ideas of female beauty. That said, he's lambasting U.K lad magazines -- Zoo and Nuts, in particular -- for promoting these things. As you might expect from those illuminating titles, both offer up photos of topless ladies with a side order of dudely reportage on sports, technology and, of course, breasts. I'm afraid Gove is banging his head against a wall -- of dirty mags -- when he questions the way these magazines celebrate "instant-hit hedonism," "thrill-seeking and instant gratification." After all, how much sexual maturity can one really expect from a men's weekly called Nuts?

From there, his speech speeds downhill. Gove, a member of the Conservative Party, argues that it's important to help "adults commit and stay committed" because it "opens the door to a depth of emotional enrichment which a series of shallow and hedonistic encounters can never generate" and "provides the best possible start in life for children." I won't bother defending young adults' uncommitted "encounters" --been there, done that -- but I will say: Politicians truly interested in seeing more children receive a fair start in life should focus on, say, improving sex education and increasing the support available to parents, and spend less time in the magazine aisle.

By Tracy Clark-Flory
salon.com

Get The Most From Your Phone Sex Experience

2008-11-30T06:19:00.000-08:00

There are a lot of people in the world who engage in Phone Sex. Some have good experiences, and some have bad. This is a little tutorial from a seasoned PSO (Phone Sex Operator) on how to get across your desires and make your fantasy play time an erotic and pleasurable experience.

Before you even pick up your phone and dial a Phone Sex Phone Number, do your research. Not all companies cover all fantasies. Google is your friend, use it. Put in the appropriate search words related to your fantasy and add the words 'phone sex' to generate more selections. Then visit the sites, go over the bios, look at the pictures, check the rates, what it will show up on your Credit Card Statement as. I know that seems like a lot, but your wallet and your fantasy-self will thank me.

After finding the girl of your fantasy world dreams. Do not be afraid to IM her. Most girls offer their Yahoo, AIM, MSN and other types of IM addy's so you can have a quick chat with them, you can also email them if you wish to. Do NOT waste their time, this is a big no no. You may think you can just chat and chat for hours, but remember, these girls do this for a living, and just as you would not go to the store and talk to the store employee about what makes wonder bread so much better then Sunbeam for 5 hours, you would also not do this to them. It's common courtesy. Also, do not assume the girl is by any way dumb, and is only working this type of job because she is ill fitted to work any other type of job. This is not true. Most Phone Sex Operators are educated, they have gone to college, or have a vast life experience, please do not assume that they are beneath you, because they are not. Speak with a modicum of intelligence to them, be concise, be clear as to what you would like to do. The faster you get across what you want, the faster you can be on your way to making yourself a very happy boy (or girl).

When you do the above, and are ready to make that call. Have your Credit Card out and ready to go. You must in most cases, have a valid credit card to purchase calls. Your information is kept confidential, and never given to anyone. So now, there you are, you have done your research, you have found your girl or guy, you have told them what you wanted, and now you are calling. If you are unsure, or nervous, then do a quick call, 10 minutes perhaps. Within that little amount of time you will get to hear their voice, and also get to know if they really understand your fetish or not. Some companies are 'No Taboo, No Limits', meaning you can talk about anything with the girls. Other companies have restrictions on what you can and cannot speak about. If the girl tells you that she is not allowed to talk about a subject with you, she is not saying this to anger you in any way, she is simply following the rules laid down to her by her company. If you are looking for a "No Taboo Site" then incorporate those words in your Search for Phone Sex Companies. Now, there you are, on the phone with her, what to do next? Tell her what you want, we are not mind readers, your experience will be much better if you know what YOU want. We do not know you, and outside of the phone sessions, we never will. So please, have some idea of what you would like to discuss, and then allow the girl or guy to lead you down a wonderful, erotically charged journey. These are just some simple things you can do to help you out. I wish you happy a happy phone time.

By ehow.com

The Anatomy of Sex part 6

2008-11-30T06:12:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel special "the anatomy of sex" part six

Looking for the perfect stranger

2008-11-29T08:14:00.000-08:00

It was after three years of living in New York that I began thinking something was wrong -- deeply, heart-wrenchingly wrong -- with the Western dating system. I would come home after an evening of swapping New York "war stories" with girlfriends, in which we regaled each other with horrific dates or detailed every phone call and e-mail exchange from a short-lived fling in order to decipher why our intended had unceremoniously disappeared. Most of these evenings ended up with one or another of us whining about our loneliness and wondering when it would end, to be comforted by yet another in our gaggle that we should just get on with our own lives and not worry about men, and that soon enough, when we were least expecting it, love would walk in through the front door or sit next to us on a flight.

The next week we would switch roles and the whiner would offer warm words of advice and hand-holding to the comforter. I heartily participated in all of these discussions, more often than not as the one plunged in despair when I first arrived in New York, and later, hardened and somewhat resigned, as the one extending succor.

After months of these cocktail-drenched evenings, two fleeting thoughts slipped across my mind, which later would take on shape and bulk and eventually morph into full-blown arguments. The first of these took hold when a friend was complaining how a man she'd met at a party two weeks ago had seemed very interested and had taken her number but had not called since. And today she'd discovered that a colleague she had a crush on had a girlfriend. Two leads that had seemed promising just last week had fallen through, which in New York is enough to induce a midmonth slump.

I bit my lower lip and, ever helpful, said, "What about that guy you were talking about last month, the one you made out with at that bar in Soho?"

"Oh yeah, him. He's too young. I can tell he's not interested in something serious," my friend said.

"Okay, well what about that guy Jason who's really into you and asking you out all the time? I think he's kind of cute," I offered hopefully.

"Eew," she said.

"Okay, what about going online? I know you're not really that into it, but ... I don't know. It just seems like there's no other way to meet somebody," I said, the first tendrils of my seedling thought stretching their tiny arms.

"I tried it. I only met freaks. I was just wasting my time," she moaned. "I just don't know where I'll meet someone."

Then the petals of my thought opened to reveal its essence. Yes indeed. Where are we in the West supposed to meet someone we'd like to marry, or at least be committed to? If we graduate from university without having found someone, we assume we'll meet someone over the next few years. But where exactly?

In many workplaces, romantic relationships are frowned upon, and people are often averse to dating someone in the office for fear it will end badly and they will still have to see their ex-lover on a daily basis. We are told that it's best to meet friends of friends. We all think this is a brilliant idea, until we realize that we've already met all of our friends' friends ... two years ago.

Then of course, there's the online route. Although the popularity of online dating in the last few years has somewhat reduced the stigma of having had to resort to the Internet to find a date, it's hardly a preferred method. Having found a girlfriend or boyfriend from an Internet site still seems the refuge of the desperate and socially isolated. And then there's the nagging little fact that many of us have tried online dating to no avail.

So then what?

This is when I found myself saying to my friend, "You're right. I don't know where you'll find someone, short of bumping into him on the street."

From that point on, I became mildly obsessed with the inadequacies of the Western dating system, or rather lack of it. Where exactly are we supposed to meet someone to marry?

For years, I never questioned the Western dating system. The tenets on which it rests seemed perfectly sound: after meeting a man or woman through work or friends, one gets to know him or her, and if one likes what one sees, one continues to deepen the commitment, which sometimes leads to marriage. What surprises me now is how much this system leaves to chance encounter, to a kind of fate or fortune. For a decidedly unmystical society that seems to have the answer for everything else -- the best medical care, cutting-edge technology, superhighways, and space shuttles -- it seems odd that people are left to their own resources, casting around for another lonely soul, for what is arguably the most important decision of their lives.

If the institution of marriage is present in every society that we know of, from Lapps in northern Sweden to aborigines, and nearly all cultures promote marriage as the foundation of society, isn't it odd, then, that there is very little provision for how it is supposed to occur in the West?

It was so obvious no organized system for marriage existed in the West that people simply failed to blame the obvious for why they couldn't find someone to marry. They were told by their therapists and their friends that it was because they were too neurotic, too unhappy, had to work on themselves before they could be happy with someone else, or that they wanted it too badly. People are told to blame themselves, and they do: they try to lose weight, they develop new interests, they get a nose job. We wonder what's wrong with us when really we should wonder whether there isn't a better way of doing things. It is a curious misplacement for a self-congratulatory culture in which people are constantly trying to shift blame away from themselves.

Once I began questioning the efficacy of the Western dating system in resulting in marriage, I started wondering why it is that wanting to be committed to someone else is too often associated with weakness in the West. I noticed that when people were happily self-sufficient, they liked to preach how they weren't looking for a serious commitment and didn't have time for one. It was only when they were dissatisfied that they began to think of marriage or commitment as a solution. But how many people are happily self-sufficient?

Does marriage have to be a salve to loneliness to have value? Isn't it valuable to begin with? In the West, the modern ideal is to be independent, on one's own, and to be able to make the choice to live with another human being, to welcome someone else as a bonus to one's existence -- if and when one is ready.

By Anita Jain

happened to find this article at salon.com

Help millions of Americans have safe sex !

2008-11-29T08:08:00.000-08:00

There are over a million of Americans today. That contracted or living with the Hiv virus or Aids. Reaching out to everyone that are sexually active. Is a subject that nobody should ignore.

Back in the 1980's was when the HIV and AIDS epidemic started. Being new to this deadly disease, they only found it in young homosexual men. And those, who were drug addicts, and people who had to get blood transfusions.

Scientists didn't really understand, where this disease came from. Until they did some research, and noticed that only the countries outside of the United States, like Africa and Caribbean countries.Were the countries that had the infection in millions, not thousands.

Back in the year of 1998 over 17 million people died of this deadly disease. And about 33 million people from Asia and Africa are living with the disease in the year of 1998.

Stats of Over 22 million people have died from AIDS. Over 42 million people are living with HIV/AIDS, Over 19 million women are living with HIV/AIDS. There are 14,000 new infections every year amongst young people.

The stats in the U.S.A. is a whopping 1 million living with the HIV virus.

54 percent of the new infections in the United States occur among African Americans, and 64 percent of the new infections in women occur in African American women.

Educate yourselves about HIV/AIDS. There are no reason why, you shouldn't strap up. Send this to your friends, digg it, do what ever. Spread the word. Join!

Tips & Warnings

1.Using latex condoms correctly and consistently during sexual activity. 2.Not having sexual relations with multiple sexual partners. 3.Avoiding drugs and alcohol, since their use might prevent people from making good decisions about protecting themselves and others from HIV . 4.Getting prompt treatment for any sore or blister in the genital area, since these can act as an open door for HIV to enter the body.
THERE IS NO REASON FOR YOU TO NOT HAVE PROTECTED SEX.
YOU WILL INFECT THOSE YOU LOVE.
YOU WILL DIE FROM THIS INFECTION.

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The Anatomy of Sex part 5

2008-11-29T07:57:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel special "the anatomy of sex" part five

-This part of the chapter explains how penis erect.

Sex for sale: $26

2008-11-27T07:39:00.000-08:00

For roughly the cost of buying a pornographic DVD -- on sale -- you can purchase sex in London; for the cost of a hot new X-rated release, you can purchase high-risk sex, like unprotected anal intercourse.

That's according to a new report, which surveyed 921 brothels in the city and found that "full sex" costs as little as 15 pounds (about $26) and unprotected sex just 10 pounds more. Sex with a prostitute on average costs 62 pounds (just over $110) and goes for as much as 250 ($442). Researchers found women of 77 different ethnicities working in the city's brothels, although many were from eastern Europe and Southeast Asia -- both of which are known for sex trafficking.

The report bolsters Britain's fight against sex trafficking and, notably, Minister for Women Harriet Harman's campaign to criminalize the sale of sex. On Thursday, in the wake of the report's release, Harman visited with trafficked women, underscored another recent survey finding that most Brits support criminalizing johns and railed against the "multimedia misrepresentations of commercial sex as a glamorous, easy and fun career choice for girls." She added: "For most women involved in prostitution, the reality is a cycle of violence and coercion, perpetuated by poverty and inequality."

Still, I remain unconvinced that outlawing prostitution is the best approach to reducing sex trafficking or that it will better protect the workers. Last year, British Liberal Democrat David Howarth very reasonably looked at the actual effect of criminalizing sex work: "Evidence from Sweden in making prostitution illegal has shown that it doesn't help in reducing human trafficking. It, in fact, increases violence against women and makes the practice of prostitution far more risky for all involved."

By Tracy Clark-Flory
Salon.com

Ways to Finger a Girl

2008-11-27T07:30:00.000-08:00

This is an article on How to Finger a Girl.

These are different finger positions, if you are wanting to learn more about technique please refer to the link below. Position 1- The Teaser: 1 finger in the vagina

Position 2- The Pleaser: 2 fingers in the vagina

Position 3- The Shocker: 2 in the vagina and 1 in the anus

Position 4- The Spocker: 2 in the vagina and 2 in the anus

Position 5- The Rocker: 3 in the vagina and 1 in the anus

Position 6- The Show Stopper: 1 in the vagina and 3 in the anus

Tips & Warnings

Positions 1 and 2 are the accepted conservative positions for fingering a girl.
The thumb can be used for stimulation of the ----oris.
Always wash your hands and it is a good idea to make sure your nails are trimmed too.
Do not attempt Positions 3-6 without her permission!

By ehow.com

The anatomy of sex part 4

2008-11-27T07:28:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel special "the anatomy of sex" part four

The joystick of sex

2008-11-25T09:03:00.000-08:00

From the prostitutes of "Grand Theft Auto" to cutting-edge teledildonics, sex has fueled the gaming industry, as the author of "Porn & Pong" explains.

In 1972, our sexual landscape was forever changed by the release of two pop-culture legends: the skin flick "Deep Throat" and, months later, the arcade game "Pong." Since then, pornography has greatly influenced how sex and sexuality are explored in gaming, which in just three decades has ballooned into a $18.85 billion industry. From early '80s sleaze fests like "Leisure Suit Larry" to the porny moans of pneumatic "Tomb Raider" heroine Lara Croft to the teledildonics that are changing the way we have -- and think of -- sex, video games have evolved with an understanding that humans crave sexual interaction, whether with a virtual character or a fellow human with high-speed Internet.

It's this sexual history of video games that Damon Brown, who covers technology for Playboy, obsessively details in"Porn & Pong: How 'Grand Theft Auto', 'Tomb Raider and other Sexy Games Change Our Culture". Approaching such topics as arm-length pixelated penises and breasts that deserve their own planetary orbit with a sense of humor, Brown explores how virtual sex has gone from the crude, joystick-controlled adult games on the Atari 2600 and text-only cybering in early-'90s AOL chat rooms to bumping uglies (fully customizable, by the way) in the virtual world "Second Life" and banging prostitutes in "Grand Theft Auto." He also examines how video vixens went from having bodies practically built out of Lego blocks to becoming ever more realistic -- at least, as much as porn-industry bodies can be called "realistic."

I recently spoke with Brown about these topics and more

How did the first pornographic video game come about?

The first mainstream pornographic game would be "Custer's Revenge," which came out in 1982 and was manufactured by a pornographic company that wanted to get a piece of the large Atari 2600 market. The game is based on General Custer who, of course, failed at Little Bighorn back in the 1800s. Part of the traditional history is that not only did General Custer fight against the Native Americans, but he also slept with quite a few of them, as did his soldiers. That was Custer's revenge for losing so badly

In the game you move a naked General Custer across the screen, avoiding Native American arrows, toward a voluptuous Native American woman, who has her hands and legs tied to a cactus. Your job is to get to her, have sex and once you have enough orgasms or she has enough orgasms it starts over and you're back on the other side of the screen. You get to do it again, only there are more arrows coming. That was the whole game and it sold 80,000 copies at $50 a piece.

There was another one called "Strip Poker" that was for the Apple II. It was a poker game where you had this digital image of a fully clothed man or woman lying down and, as you beat them in rounds of poker, the screen would flash and they would take off another piece of clothing. There were six stages, so you went from fully clothed to bra and panties -- and in later editions completely nude.

"Leisure Suit Larry" was the first fully accepted sex-related game. It had a lovable character wearing a leisure suit. He came straight from the '70s. He was like the 40-year-old virgin, except much sleazier. He just wandered around a parody of Las Vegas trying to pick up women, and it sold about a million copies in the '80s.

By Tracy Clark-Flory

salon.com

Enjoy SAFER SEX, if ABSTINENCE is not your Choice

2008-11-25T08:48:00.000-08:00

Though not a popular belief, abstinence from sexual activity is the only sure way to prevent pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections and disease. But, there are safer sex practices that lower (but do not completely eliminate) the risk of catching or giving a sexually transmitted infection or becoming pregnant. Some sexual activities are much safer than others, though. These include: hugging, kissing, touching, and having intimate conversations. All other types of sex are more risky. Here are some facts, that might help to lower your risk:

Touching the genitals of another person, mutual masturbation, and vaginal, anal or oral sex are all sexual activities that can spread viruses, bacteria and parasites present on the skin, in the genital hair or in bodily fluids.

According to the CDC, practicing safer sex by using a male latex condom 100% of the time, can lessen, but not eliminate the risk of getting an STI, such as: herpes, chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, chancre, HIV/AIDS and trichomoniasis.

There is no evidence that practicing safer sex can lessen the risk of getting: hepatitis B, pelvic inflammatory disease, scabies, pubic lice or human papilloma virus, also known as HPV or genital warts.

So, safer sex only reduces and does not eliminate the risk of sexually transmitted infections and disease. For example, the CDC reports that condoms can reduce the risk of contracting HIV by 85%, but only if correctly and consistently used. The use of drugs and alcohol often clouds a person's judgement, neglecting condom use "just this once".

Tips & Warnings

Sex is designed to be an enjoyable, life-enhancing experience.
Everyone must recognize, though, that many sexual activities carry potential consequences, such as STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
NO CONDOM can offer complete protection.
With male condoms, for example, skin surfaces like the scrotum and labia are in contact, allowing transmission of infection.
And any condom may break or slip during sexual activity.
Limit the number of sexual partners
Avoid partners who use IV drugs or have had many other sexual partners Do not mix sex with alcohol or illegal substances. Doing so lessens the ability to practice safer sex.
Seek healthcare right away if an STD or exposure to an STD is suspected.

By ehow.com

The Anatomy of Sex part 3

2008-11-25T08:46:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel special "the anatomay of sex" part three

How to Accept Homosexuality as Normal

2008-11-24T05:59:00.000-08:00

It does not take a genius or a religious leader to find the facts that explain not only why homosexuality exists, but why it should be accepted as a natural way of life.

Homosexuality is a form of sexuality one is born with. It should be treated no differently than hermaphroditism and pseudo-hermaphroditism, and inter sexuality.

A hermaphrodite, is a person born with both female and male sexual organs, such as testicles and ovaries. Many times parents of theses children, decide to have their child surgically transformed to either male or female. Many of these children grow up to be homosexual, because the sex that was chosen for them is not the sex of their soul.

A pseudo-hermaphrodite, is a person born with reproductive organs of one sex while exhibiting some of the external physical characteristics of the opposite sex.

Inter sexuality, is an intermingling in varying degrees, of the characters of each sex. including physical form, reproductive tissue and sexual behavior, as a result of some "flaw" in embryonic fluid.

With all these sexual variations, why can't we safely assume, that a homosexual is the product of this same kind of "flaw"? That it is not a mental disease or sickness that must be cured, or a sinful abomination. Should not the soul of each individual, determine who they fall in love with?

How do I think all these flaws came to pass? Exodus 34:7 Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that by no means clear the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and the children's children, into the third and forth generations. (KJV) Numbers 14:18 The Lord is longsuffering, and of great mercy, forgiving iniquity and transgression and by no means clearing the guilty, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation. (KJV) There are several other references in the Bible, that carry these same sentiments. Are the iniquities visited on our children, a result of the sin of our ancestors? Are the "flaws" in their sexual makeup, our ancestors punishment? ( Children of alcoholics, are more prone to alcoholism.) If so they are not now sinning , but the product of sin. Not one of Gods children, should judge another.

As for Law and Government, All Men are Created Equal, and ALL have the right to Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness. Our God is a loving and forgiving God. I can not believe that God does not want all his children to live happy, love filled lives, and that he would deny them the same companionship as those of us without the "flaw" are able to enjoy, free of moral judgement. Not one of his children is better than the other.

Tips & Warnings

Love one another
We are all Gods children, made in his image
Let him who has never sinned, cast the first stone.

By ehow.com

A hooker makeover?

2008-11-24T05:55:00.000-08:00

Tracy Clark-Flory responds to a new Dutch plan to curb prostitution.

The Anatomy of Sex part 2

2008-11-24T05:53:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel special "the anatomay of sex" part two

Find her g-spot

2008-11-23T06:04:00.000-08:00

Finding a girls g-spot will help you give her intense g-spot orgasm which have her begging to come back for more.

If you want to learn how to find a woman g-spot the first thing you need to find is a woman. A woman who is happy to have your fingers probing about inside her vagina, no less. This is relatively easy if you have a wife or girlfriend . If you don’t you could always pay a prostitute as you will be giving something interesting to talk about on her break, you may get a discount.

Having procured a willing partner get her to lie flat on her back with knees raised and her feet flat on the floor . Gently insert your fingers into her vagina feeling along the upper vagina wall, you will need to apply a little gentle pressure.

The g-spot is located about 1.5 to 3 inches along the upper vagina wall when you locate it should feel a little rougher than the surrounding tissue. When you touch it should begin to swell and get a little spongy as your partner becomes aroused.

Watch for your partner reaction it should tell you when you are rubbing in the right place. Many woman have already experienced digital stimulation of their g-spot by themselves or with previous partners , this will be of great assistance.

Using the above advice and using the tactile indicators and partner feedback you should be able to locate her g-spot without to much effort. The gentlemanly thing to do next is to gently bring her to orgasm.

If you are paying a prostitute now is the time to negotiate for that discount.

By ehow.com

Equal-opportunity adultery

2008-11-23T05:59:00.000-08:00

One of the most dismal and depressing parts of "Mad Men" (besides the fact that it ended Sunday) was watching the members of the young suburban wives club, presided over and epitomized by Betty Draper, as they slowly came to realize their husbands weren't necessarily having their nightcaps with the guys and their hubbies' late nights in a city pied-à-terre were often far from lonely.

"For women over 60, the increase is more striking: to 15 percent, up from 5 percent in 1991"

But while we ladies may still have a few more laps to go before we can declare victory on, say, equal wages for equal work, an article in today's New York Times reveals that when it comes to the wages of marital sin, we may be making some progress: "Notably, women appear to be closing the adultery gap: younger women appear to be cheating on their spouses nearly as often as men." Let's hear it for equal-opportunity lying, cheating and whoring around!

Lying is pretty much included in the definition of adultery -- otherwise it's a relationship better known as "open marriage" or "polyamory" -- so it can be tough to figure out if the same people who are lying to their spouses about their behavior are lying to researchers as well. But several new studies seem to show significant demographic shifts: "Researchers have found that the lifetime rate of infidelity for men over 60 increased to 28 percent in 2006, up from 20 percent in 1991. For women over 60, the increase is more striking: to 15 percent, up from 5 percent in 1991." Also: "About 20 percent of men and 15 percent of women under 35 say they have ever been unfaithful, up from about 15 and 12 percent respectively."

Seniors may be having more illicit sex just because, thanks to medical advances -- including Viagra, estrogen therapy and "better hip replacements" -- they can have more sex, period. But researchers are most interested in what's up with the women -- and here at Broadsheet we are, too.

Upon closer examination, the thing that may take most explaining is why there was such a huge fidelity gap between American men and women in the first place. In those infamous "hunting and gathering societies" -- the ones that come up each and every time we talk about cultural vs. hard-wired differences in gender -- women are no more likely than men to be faithful, anthropologist Helen E. Fisher told the Times. Thus, any differences are likely to be cultural. Do we even have to say it? OK, fine: "Men with multiple partners typically are viewed as virile, while women are considered promiscuous."

But does the stud vs. slut conundrum mean that women were actually less likely to commit adultery, or just less likely to admit it? Asks Fisher: "Is it that men are bragging about it and women are lying to everybody including themselves?" Or did women of yore just not have enough time and dependable child care to work a little extracurricular action into the daily schedule? "Historically," Fisher points out, "women have been isolated on farms or at home with children, giving them fewer opportunities to be unfaithful." But these days, wives, too, can have a little "late night at the office" or last-minute "business trip."

Whether lifelong monogamy is an ideal worth achieving is something way too personal to get into here. But I dare say it's the kind of contract that works best with equal expectations -- of virtue and villainy, love and lust. I'm pretty sure that "Mad Men's" Don Draper might have been more likely to skip his round of gimlets had he suspected his wife might have been around the corner enjoying one of her own.

By salon.com

The anatomy of sex part 1

2008-11-23T05:47:00.000-08:00

Discovery channel special "the anatomy of sex" part one

EASILY Last Longer in Bed

2008-11-22T07:08:00.000-08:00

The first thing you must do to make yourself last longer is practice. When I say practice, think of sex as a basketball game and masturbation as basketball practice. You can't practice to last only a few minutes and expect to play the full game time.

To do a good practice session you are going to need to practice control or holding back when you are about to orgasm. In other words, make your masturbation sessions long and when you are about to orgasm hold it in, which might take some practice. Use the holding back method many times during each masturbation session. This will also allow for a more climactic orgasm at the end of your session, which will feel even better.

Practice, practice, practice until you are able to apply this method to a regular sex session. The more practice you have at holding back, the less likely it will interrupt your rhythm during sex. In time you will eventually have total control and will be able to last as long as your physical conditioning allows.

If you have a hyper sensitivity problem, you might want to consider switching your condom to Trojan Extended Pleasure with Climax Control.

By ehow.com

Orgasms do not grow on trees, y'all

2008-11-22T07:03:00.000-08:00

Last Friday, before the world changed, the Washington Post published a little story about women's "sexual problems" with the oh-so-lascivious lede: "In a double whammy for the female gender, new research shows that 40 percent of women report sexual problems, but only 12 percent are distressed about it."

"39 percent reported diminished desire, 26 percent reported problems with arousal, and 21 percent problems with achieving orgasm."

Talk about a cock block! Nearly half of women in the survey have "sexual problems," and yet, only a smidge more than 10 percent care about it? What gives, ladies? Haven't read enough "Our Bodies, Ourselves" recently? Or perhaps something is else going on. Before we answer that question, let's look at the nitty-gritty of this study. Again, from the Washington Post article:

Overall, 43.1 percent of those surveyed reported some kind of sexual problem: 39 percent reported diminished desire, 26 percent reported problems with arousal, and 21 percent problems with achieving orgasm."

I didn't like the sound of that. So I did what any good Broadsheet editor in my situation would do: I tossed it to my colleagues. "Desire diminishes, and orgasms don't grow on trees," I wrote them, along with sending the link. "Thoughts?"

By salon.com

How to not pull a Spitzer: Hooker vs. Girlfriend

2008-11-20T08:39:00.000-08:00

So let me get this straight: a politician spends an obscene amount of money screwing hookers, lies about it for years, is enabled by an oblivious family and a staff paid to keep mum, and is finally busted in a headline-making scandal.

Surprised? No. The only shocker is that more wealthy, educated politicians aren't caught with their greasy little paws in our national cookie jar, buying prostitutes and drugs and rough-trade "massage therapists" and whatever else they need to get their freak on after a long day of sticking it to their constituents. The only thing that raised my eyebrow in New York ex-governor Spitzer's case is the $4,300 he reputedly spent in one single night, since that sum is so out of line with the standard market rates for even the most complicated and risky sexual services. If Mr. Spitzer and his courtesan weren't sacrificing goats to Satan and drinking the blood of immortal damnation, he was being overcharged.

I'm curious what Spitzer thought he was getting for his alleged $80,000/year hoochie habit (well, they say you can't eat just one). I mean, beside the sex. Was it intimacy, or lack thereof? Did he have a freaky fetish he just couldn't bring himself to describe to his wife? Or was he actually trying to end his career in the most humiliating way possible, spawning ten thousand "Spitzer Swallows" captions in ten thousand blogs? I mean, if he couldn't get what he wanted at home, why didn't he just make like a French president and take a mistress? Why did he choose to break the law in a serial exhibition of staggering hypocrisy, offending the morals of millions of red-blooded Americans?

I think we have to look at the common perception that a hooker is somehow less trouble than a girlfriend. Let's do a Hooker vs Girlfriend run-down and see if the theory proves true, or if Spitzer can add smoking a daily bushel of crack to his list of sins.

Expense: Obviously Spitzer liked the luxury model, but a straight screw can be had in most major cities for about $150, if you're a bargain hunter. Dinner and a movie? Say $75, if you're not a total alcoholic and you pick ethnic over steakhouse. In the realm of expense, having a girlfriend will save you roughly $75 per bedroom romp.

Kink: If you want a pretty girl to take a dump on your chest, the win in this category goes to the hooker, without question. But for relatively normal freakazoid stuff, you'd be surprised what your girlfriend will do for you if you ask nicely. The activities I'll do for love are much more comprehensive than the relatively small menu of acts I'll perform for pay. *cough*ANAL *cough* *cough*. I'm gonna give the win to the girlfriend here (unless you're an Adult Baby, in which case I'm sorry, dude, but you're going to have to get used to paying for it).

Discretion: The girlfriend is more likely to call your wife. This may be a point for the hooker. Of course if you get caught in a police sting and your face is on the front page of the newspaper, this also blows discretion.

Safety: Worried about STDs? Surprisingly, in this category, the win goes to the hooker. Call girls are far more likely to be educated about sexually transmitted infections than non-professionals. They're used to using barriers and lube for all potentially unsafe activities, and most self-respecting prostitutes get full-spectrum STD testing every few months. Let's be serious: When was the last time you were tested for herpes, chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, and HIV? Uh huh. Get thee to a clinic, player.

Intimacy: Your girlfriend's had a rough day. She snaps at you, then bursts into tears. You rub her back and later, you go to the mini-mart for a box of super-maxipads and a king-size bag of peanut M&Ms. Granted, this can be a bummer. Frequent intimacy can be exhausting and frustrating, whereas having sex with a prostitute is like masturbating, except that the person touching your penis cares about you a lot less. To some folks, lack of emotional accountability can be mighty seductive. In the end, though, I'm giving the point to the girlfriend here because I think that most people prefer to have sex with partners they love and trust, despite all the hassles inherent in any long-term relationship. And if I'm a dreamer, baby, let me dream on.

I think the Hooker versus Girlfriend smack-down leads us to a pretty decent conclusion, really—one that Spitzer really should have taken into account before wrecking his career and dishonoring his poor family: the best things in life are free, and if you are going to stray, do it with someone who isn't a paid professional. The sex'll be better, and you'll avoid being the target of nationwide schadenfreude, bad punning, and all-around social disgrace.

I may be wrong. But I know for damn sure the best things in life don't cost $4,300.

Make Herbal AphrodisiacTea

2008-11-20T08:37:00.000-08:00

Some eat oysters as a Aphrodisiac. A little know herbal aphrodisiac remedy that works just as well or better is the use of a special mixture of herb tea. Follow the directions below to what is usually referred to as "love tea."

Boil two cups of water.

While water is boiling pour liquid rose petals, Spearmint, licorice root, and hawthorn herb in water.

Then stir in the pinch of coriander, cinnamon, and nutmeg and add a toach of vanilla to taste.

Cover and turn heat down to simmer for three minutes.

Take tea off heat, stir and let stand for five minutes.

Pour into mugs and sit with your loved one for a nice conversation while sipping tea. Let things go from there.

Tips & Warnings

Turn off on wanted detractions and enjoy each others company.

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Join the Mile High Club

2008-11-19T06:54:00.000-08:00

So you think you want to join the Mile High Adventure Club. We're glad to hear you have a goal. The question is, do you have an adventurous nature and nerves of steel? An agreeable partner? Bail money? If so, you too can become a member of this very exclusive group.

Book a red-eye flight. With Air Marshals aboard and Indecent Exposure laws on the books, darkness is definitely the preferred medium for membership.

Find a friend. No matter how much fun you're able to have alone, it just doesn't count toward membership. Bring a willing sexual partner who is 21 or older on the flight. Unless, of course, you prefer the challenge of finding a new friend aboard who has similar goals. In that case, good luck!

Wait until the Captain levels off and announces the plane's altitude. To become a Mile High Club member, you must succeed in your goal after the plane has reached--surprisingly enough--one mile above the earth. (That's 5,280 feet to us mere mortals.)

Sit next to your partner and get cozy. Share a blanket in case one of you gets a bit frisky. Wait until the passengers begin dozing and the least amount of overhead lights are on before proceeding further. (Note: In-flight movies are also great sources of passenger distraction.)

Decide where you'll meet your goal. If the flight has few passengers, and none immediately across the aisle, you might consider staying in your current location. However, be certain you'll both fit in the allotted space. (You don't want to get stuck between seatbacks and have to call a flight attendant for help.) If your seat simply won't do, you and your partner must discretely meet in the only other passenger accessible area…the bathroom. (Fair warning: You'll have to stand in an area not much larger than your seat assignment.)

Get into the most accessible position, and quietly do the deed. Discretion is imperative. Remember, you can get arrested for drawing attention to yourselves, so this is not the time to howl like a baboon.

Complete your Mile High Club membership, and casually tuck all of your pieces and parts back in. Congratulate yourselves on a fun job well done--and don't forget to wipe that silly grin off your face.

How to talk dirty to your partner! 5 easy tips and examples!

2008-11-18T08:48:00.000-08:00

Do you want to learn to talk dirty to your partner? Read this "how to" and unleash your inner sexy, seductive woman that has been hiding within!

One: Tap into your inner kink! Find out what turns you on and run with it! Be willing to explore your sexual fantasies! THIS IS NOT A DIRTY THING! ITS NORMAL AND HEALTHLY!

Two: Practice talking dirty in text messages, chat or through email! This is an excellent way to say what you want and still feel comfortable while doing it! For example: Hey baby! I just wanted to tell you that I was thinking about you all day...now my panties are dripping wet! This line could be an EXCELLENT ice breaker to get a heated text going!

Three: Practice your dirty talk while having sex in the dark! This is another great way to feel comfortable! Just say what's on your mind! For example: Feeling good? THEN SAY IT! Oooo, you feel so good! I want more of you! Please give me more of that hot, stiff ______! This line is guaranteed to get you a good, hard f*&^%$#!

Four: Rephrase your own lingo! Use sexy, seductive words to spice up your dirty talk! For example: Instead of saying I love kissing you, say, Baby I love the touch of your soft, sexy lips pressing against mine! This line will earn you another kiss for sure!

Five: RELAX and BREATH! Have confidence in yourself! Your man will love any effort you make at dirty talk!

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2008-11-18T06:00:00.000-08:00

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Sexual Myths ABout Women

2008-11-18T05:16:00.000-08:00

There are facts and myths about almost every subject in life. Here are a few myths when it comes to women and sex.

1.Sexual expression should be repressed.

2.Sexual happiness is a right.

3.Women should only experience or posses sensuality only if they are married or in a monogamous relationship.

4.Sexuality should never be talked about, only to your partner behind closed doors.

5.Heterosexuality or better than homosexuality.

6.A women should never say no to her husband when it comes to sex.

7.A woman should not look sexy in the work place.

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Overcome Female Sexual Dysfunction

2008-11-18T05:13:00.000-08:00

As many as 4 in 10 women experience some form of sexual dysfunction. The symptoms are as follows; her desire for sex is low or non-existent, she experiences problems becoming aroused or maintaining arousal, she can’t achieve orgasm, and finally she experiences pain or general discomfort during intercourse. Ladies if you are aware that your lack of desire for sex is negatively influencing your relationship with your partner this is the article for you. And guys, before you start resenting your wife/girlfriend or thinking that she may be getting it somewhere else therefore doesn’t need it from you, consider the following information.

Female sexual dysfunction has three main causes. PHYSICAL Ailments such as arthritis, constant headache, diabetes, fatigue, neurological disorders, pelvic surgery, endometriosis and general pain can all adversely influence her sex drive. In order to deal with female sexual dysfunction a woman or preferably a couple must deal with any physical ailments by consulting a physician. Guys, next time she tells you she has a headache believe her, and if the problem persists, insist that she get medical attention. Ladies, it is your right to enjoy a fulfilling sex life and contributory to your overall health and well being. Therefore dealing with any physical problems that might negatively influence your sex life is well worth your time.

HORMONAL For women, decreased estrogen levels during the menopausal transition may lead to changes in her genital tissues and her sexual responsiveness. Estrogen aids in maintaining elasticity of the vaginal lining and in producing vaginal lubrication. Guys, if her lack of sex drive is due to hormones; if for example she has just had a baby and is breast feeding or is going through menopause, the best thing you can do is be patient. Realize that her vagina now requires more stimulation to relax and lubricate before intercourse. Get some KY Jelly just in case and give her an erotic massage. Ladies, don’t let your hormones rule your life. Instead communicate with your partner. After all, he probably has no idea what being hormonal means even though he may dismiss some of your complaints etc. by saying, “oh you’re just hormonal.”

PSYCHOLOGICAL Undiagnosed and untreated anxiety or depression can cause or contribute to sexual dysfunction in women (as in men), as can long-term stress. Guys, if she is worried about the stacks of unpaid bills, or your overall financial situation, or perhaps the problem isn’t financial and she is just depressed for one reason or another, or thinks that you might be cheating etc, or has cultural and religious issues and problems with her body image she is not going to be particularly excited about hitting the sheets. The psychological causes of female sexual dysfunction may be the hardest to deal with and require open and honest communication and perhaps even professional help. Ladies, take charge of your psychological well being. Be honest with yourselves and your partner. You deserve and want to be happy. It’s never too late to invest in yourself and your own health.

Regardless of where the problems began, a couple needs to address any physical, hormonal or psychological issues in order for treatment to be effective. Honest communication and perhaps medical advice are essential to recovery.

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How to know if she likes you

2008-11-17T05:42:00.000-08:00

Most many fear rejection and this often stops them approaching women. One of the best ways to overcome the fear of rejection is to stick to approaching girls you know like you. So how do you know if she likes you what are the signs

There are several ways to reduce the fear of rejection when approaching girls or asking them for date. One of the very best is the only approach girls you know like you. If you’re sure they fancy you fear of rejection become irrelevant. So what are the signs how do you tell if a girls likes you here’s 7 good ways to get you started.

1 If she keeps looking at you and making grooming gestures, smoothing her hair, adjusting her clothes and the like it’s a pretty good indication that she likes you.

2. Get jealous and upset when you talk to or about other girls. She may make unkind remarks about any attractive women whose names come up in conversation.

3. She makes excuses and finds reasons to be in your company. She partakes in activities she doesn’t normally enjoy if you are involved.

4. She is always complimenting you about little things that no body else notices or takes for granted.

5. She stays focused on you during group conversation even when she talking to some one else.

6. She quickly jumps to your defence if someone criticises you.

7. She laughs at your jokes even if they are really dumb. A good test you can use on a girl to see how much she likes is to tell her a couple of corny jokes. If she laughs she is either real dumb or she likes you. Don’t go overboard with this mix in some really good jokes or see may revise her opinion of you.

Tips & Warnings

Between them these 7 techniques should tell whether or not she likes you and how safe it is to move in for the kill. Even armed with the knowledge that she really likes you a approaching an attractive girl can be a daunting task if you are not confident of yourself and your seduction technique be sure to check out our resources for more info.
Even when a girl really likes you may still not get to first base if you make a real mess of things make sure you know a few basic seduction techniques before you make your move.

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Inform Partner of Exposure to an STD with an E-Card

2008-11-17T05:41:00.001-08:00

Learning that you have a sexually transmitted disease (STD) can bring up many different emotions. However embarrassing, it is absolutely imperative that you inform your current and recent partners. As it seems, you can do almost everything online, including informing partners of STD status via an e-card.

In the U.S. there are 19 million new cases of sexually transmitted diseases diagnosed each year. As a way to get more people to inform their partners about having an STD, an organization called inSPOT.org was formed. Their informational approach is to send an e-card.

To inform someone about an STD with an e-card, go to the website by typing www.inSPOT.org in your browser. On the main page is a list of cities, states, and a few international locations. Scroll down to find your area.

Click on your city, state or area. This takes you to a new page where your option is to "tell them" or "get checked." Click the "tell them" tab. Telling someone that they may have acquired an STD from you in the responsible thing to do.

To inform your partners they may have been exposed to an STD, you need to choose an e-card, create your message, preview it, and then send it to past partners or encounters. These e-cards include resources and information for the recipient.

Get tested! No matter your feelings about being tested for STDs, whether it is embarrassment, shame, or a neutral feeling it is very important to do it. Not getting a test can equal death.

It may seem a strange way to inform someone they might have been exposed to a sexually transmitted disease, but since its inception inSPOT.org has helped notify almost 50,000 people. Anonymous is better than not knowing.

Tips & Warnings

if you have had any type of sexual relationship, get tested
make testing a part of your healthy lifestyle
you are not immune to exposure to STDs just because you are heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, gay, transgendered, queer, or otherwise identified.

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How to Explain Artificial Insemination to Your Children

2008-11-16T08:53:00.000-08:00

Artificial insemination is the method of getting pregnant by injecting a tube of semen into the vagina. Some families use this as a means of getting pregnant because the husband has a low or non existent sperm count. Other mothers use artificial insemination as a way to become pregnant without a sexual partner. Whatever your reason, the topic will come up in conversation when the children are born. This article will help you explain artificial insemination in terms children will understand.

Explain to your child the different types of families. There are families with 1 mother and 1 father, Single parent families, Foster families, Adoptive families, and families with 2 mothers or 2 fathers. Each type of family is built with love and no design is better than the next. Artificial insemination doesn't even have to come up during this discussion.

Sit your child on your lap and talk about the difference between a Daddy and a Father. Explain there are some fathers who give their hair color, eye color, height, and facial features. Then talk about a Daddy that gives his love, time, and attention. Again, you don't even have to bring up the term artificial insemination at this point.

Explain that some Mommies get pregnant at home and others get pregnant at the doctor's office. Artificial insemination may have taken place at home, but using the doctor's office for explanation helps them distinguish between the two.

Introduce the term artificial insemination when your child begins learning sex education in school. At this point your child should understand the difference between a father and a Daddy. She should also know that her Daddy did not give her any physical traits. This is the time, however to tell her exactly what happens during artificial insemination.

Tips & Warnings

Never make artificial insemination a big deal. These conversations don't have to be a production. A casual conversation at the dinner table, or on the way to Grandma and Grandpa's is fine.

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Discuss Sex Problems With a Partner

2008-11-14T09:28:00.000-08:00

Sexual problems are more common than people realize. However, they're very difficult to talk about not only with our doctors but also with our partners. There's a great of fear that our partners won't be able to handle the problems or handle the solutions. However, it is important to know how to discuss any sex problems you may have with your partner.

Schedule the time to sit down and talk. This should be an interruption-free time. It shouldn't be when you both are tired from work or when you just want to go to sleep. It also shouldn't be discussed during another argument or brought up during a time of anger or frustration. You both need to address the sexual problems when you're fairly emotion free.

Acknowledge emotions. Say how both of you feel about the sexual problems, but don't blame the other person for them.

Understand that the mind and emotions play an important role in sex. Many sexual problems are physiological in nature and simply need to be worked through with talking about views on sex and any past sexual issues.

Agree to a course of action or agree to be supportive to work through the sexual problems. Consider making an appointment to see a doctor in case there's a medical reason for sexual problems. Perhaps there's a simple medical solution you haven't considered.

Be open to trying new things. Perhaps the solution is something as simple as a new position or a period of relaxation before sex.

Consider seeing a counselor or sex therapist that specializes in sexual disorders. Perhaps all the two of you need to do is talk about your sexual problems and find solutions in a safe environment.

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How to Ask for What You Want

2008-11-12T05:37:00.000-08:00

“Can you … um do that …um .. thing again? “What thing?” “Ummm … you know, that thing … um … kind of … down there.” This was once me. Forget dirty talk. I found it difficult to talk about anything related to sex. It was like when the teacher made you read a note to a friend out loud to classroom full of laughing kids. Every word had to be choked out. It was humiliating.

Since the early days in our marriage, my husband and I have introduced lots of innovations to our sex life. Sex toys. Role-playing. New positions and acts. But nothing has improved my sex life more than my learning how to say what I want. Getting to the point where I could unashamedly ask for my heart’s desire was not an overnight thing. There was no magic bullet. I had to overcome lots of inhibitions that were ingrained in me from an early age.

My husband had a great idea that got me started. We each wrote down a few secret fantasies on small pieces of paper. At night, we’d pick one out at random. This led to some very hot sessions, and … suddenly, I was communicating. And I didn’t have to say anything! From there, and with practice, I slowly got better at asking for what I wanted. I went from blushing whispers to soft requests to excited demands. It was exhilarating to finally be able to say all the things I had been suppressing. Then maybe, probably predictably, I got a little too cocky. The result?

“I suck in bed,” my husband groaned. “What!? No way!” I sputtered. “I can never get it right.” Whoa! This wasn’t what I intended. I had to do a lot of sweet talk to get out of that one. But lesson learned—there is a balance between communicating and making your partner feel like crap. In fact, by getting comfortable talking during sex, I found I could make my husband feel very, very good indeed. I started to tell him, in some very explicit terms, just what exactly I did like. Now those were sweet words to his ears. And to mine. Could this really be me doing … gulp … dirty talk? Wow, I even turned myself on. Hot, sexy, uninhibited me!

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